The 101 For Guys in Online Christian Dating. Part 1

A few things they never tell you about online profiles & dating sites..

Stop measuring the the gal by her picture.. Read the profile and save yourself the later embarrassment and self degradation.

Guys, there's no easy way for me to say this, but women turn us on; it's part of our wiring.. So if you really don't have any kid control, it may be good practice to look at the profile details before the pictures.. Many of you just click the pictures, send a wink, click to the next profile.. Then, when you get lucky and that lady randomly finds your wink out of the millions of winks (from other guys), she winks back to you... Lucky you! (women read the entire profile before they make contact).. So you get this wink, and think 'wow, cool..she's hot!, etc", and then finally read the profile in search of red flags. It's the psychology of the chase and the ugly urge to go after a gal that's out of our league.

Don't bother looking at the multiple guess answers that describe herself: faith, income, etc, rather, look at what she finds acceptable in her mate; this is closer to the truth.

I was checking out this gal's profile who indicated that her faith is that of a Christian or Protestant. However, down a little further, she indicated, that for her mate, the following would be acceptable:  "Agnostic, Christian/Catholic, Christian/Other, and Spiritual but not religious". A person who truly believes in God as their personal Lord and Savior does not find anything Agnostic acceptable in their mate, especially for a future spiritual leader and family head... This gal either A) never had a personal relationship with God, or B) is a backsliding Christian.

Secondly, she has an income requirement. Does God have an income requirement? This gal is apparently poking at a set of carnal norms rather than biblical. As mentioned prior, if you read the profile, the pretty pictures would either fade, or possibly, become more beautiful. It's as simple as reading!

Anything that's not in the picture, she's not proud of.. For instance, 6 pictures of her face should indicate something.

Hey, I know guys out there who've waved down gals in traffic thinking they were hot, only to find out that the door of their car was covering up the hotter parts. Don't let the window be your only view of judgement. A woman's beauty is defined by her willingness to share that with you, and it's pretty clear in a profile.

Oh I'm just in Africa visiting my mom for a month, but I'll be back home soon!

Usually this is followed up by "have you ever had a long distance relationship?" Really now! So ask for a cell or home phone. She's most likely not a citizen of your country if she's visiting another and replying to dating ads.

I'm tired of the bar scene and the kind of guys I meet there. They're all the same

If you go browsing through her pictures to find her posing with a beer in hand, in like, more than a couple of photos, chances are the above quote more efficiently translates into: "I didn't get the attention I wanted, so I'm trying online dating."

The last thing I'd like to touch on in this part, is to seek a gal who you can meet sometime this week. If you get to know her and you haven't met her in person, you haven't really gotten to know her; rather, the side she involuntarily wishes to expose. Body language, expression, and tone of voice are values online dating can't produce when searching out chemistry X.

In summary, get a bigger picture.. If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't.. Ask her out to coffee to avoid further guess work.

And lastly lastly, the girl next door is more real than anything online!

JP